Why Combining Meditation With Enneagram Wisdom Helps You Flourish
An increasing number of people are turning to meditation and mindfulness to connect more deeply with themselves and find freedom from stressful lives and all the consequences that go along with that.
This inward turn is often the beginning of an awakening process that begins when people realize that the way they’ve been doing life isn’t working any longer.
We all have an inner impulse to grow and evolve into the fullest expression of ourselves, with lives that feel vital, connected, and meaningful.
I hear from people worldwide trying to answer questions that leave folks feeling lost, confused, and stuck with a feeling of what I call soul hunger: Who am I? How can I feel more peaceful? What’s missing in my life? How can I live with more meaning and purpose? In the article Soul Hunger: The Silent Epidemic Of The 21st Century, I shed light on this mysterious phenomenon that is a spiritual form of inner stress.
These powerful spiritual questions arise when our souls are saturated with the material aspects of life and we’re ready to awaken to our deeper, true selves.
Several years ago, asking these questions and feeling soul hunger triggered my search for deeper meaning, purpose, and connection.
After many years of soul-searching and navigating the awakening journey, I’ve learned that meditation and mindfulness enriched with wisdom from the Enneagram map of personality are the dream team if you feel called to shed your limiting and conditioned beliefs so that you are free to grow into your true self.
Meditation includes powerful practices that physically, emotionally, and spiritually shift things inside you.
The Enneagram provides a map for understanding yourself and learning about your motivations and habitual ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Enriching your meditation with the wisdom of the Enneagram gives you a streamlined and intentional way to navigate your awakening journey. In the article, Unlock Inner Peace: How The 4 Holistic Pillars Of Awakening Lead To Your True Self, I share a framework to help you flourish.
The Enneagram map of personality helps you to SEE your true self, and meditation enables you to BE your true self.
Let’s start with meditation and mindfulness.
Like many folks drawn to meditation, I was stressed, suffering and looking for relief to feel happier and more content.
I wanted to feel more peaceful and resilient, like I was fully thriving and not just getting by.
After practicing meditation daily, I noticed a plateau in my growth. My body, mind, and heart seemed more peaceful, but I still couldn’t answer the questions: Who am I? What’s missing when I have so much to be grateful for? What does my future best self look like?
I wondered whether I needed to deepen my meditation practice and considered attending a multi-day retreat. I had already committed to a 20-minute sitting practice twice daily.
I tuned into my inner wisdom and sensed that sitting longer in silence wouldn’t give me the answers.
My inner knowing was validated when I listened to a webinar with Ken Wilbur, an American philosopher and writer on transpersonal psychology and integral theory. Wilbur discussed the science of self-actualization and explained that humans are evolving and that meditation and mindfulness don’t account for this.
Meditation and mindfulness practices can help with many things, but they don’t enable you to look inside and see your level of development or personality type, which results in your habitual thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.
Meditation will help you work with your body, emotions, and mind but doesn’t get to the root of why you have a habitual pattern that ultimately causes stress and suffering to arise in the first place.
We can meditate for hours or sit in a silent retreat for a month, and we won’t be able to look inside ourselves and see our evolutionary path. Who am I meant to become? What is holding me back from becoming it? What does my true self look like?
All this is to say that meditation and mindfulness are powerful and valuable practices that aren’t meant to stand alone. They’ll only take us so far on our awakening journey.
On the spiritual path, we need to learn how to discern the difference between our ego or personality and our soul, which is connected to the spirit.
How do we discern the difference between our personality and soul?
The answer to this question came from learning about the Enneagram map of consciousness.
What is the Enneagram of personality?
The Enneagram is an ancient symbol that has evolved into a psychospiritual soul map that an increasing number of spiritual teachers, psychologists, coaches, and counsellors use for personal growth and client work.
According to the Enneagram, nine personality types are motivated by different things. Each type has a different path to self-actualization. For example, we have three intelligence sources: the head, the heart, and the body. Depending on your type, you’ll have different things to work on. That’s why a one-size-fits-all approach to meditation doesn’t work. The Enneagram: A Pathway To Inner Peace Through Self-Discovery provides an overview of each of the nine types and their core motivations.
We can structure our practices based on knowledge gained from understanding our personality. For example, a head type needs silence, a heart type needs solitude, and a body type needs stillness. This helps explain why a heart-type client needs solitude to connect with their deeper needs. Their attention is always outward toward others, so they lose touch with themselves.
Knowing our Enneagram personality type, we can structure our meditation, mindfulness, and inner growth practices to meet our unique needs.
Understanding our personality type and who we are not, in turn, helps us see the prison of our soul and provides the key to getting out. Each type has unique gifts AND its flavour of suffering that trip them up from fully thriving and fulfilling their potential.
The Enneagram is all about self-awareness. Without awareness and the ability to witness our personalities, they are like a straitjacket, causing inner turmoil, relationship troubles, and limiting fears that prevent us from living a more authentic and fulfilling life.
How can the Enneagram guide us in becoming our true selves?
Understanding our personality is vitally important because our personality is not who we are. We have a personality, but we are not our personality.
Our personality that at one time in our lives helped us survive, over time, becomes our prison – causing all sorts of symptoms that result in health, relationship, and vocational problems.
When we are called to awaken spiritually, we are essentially beginning to wake up to our dual nature. We bring awareness to who we are not (our conditioned self) to connect more deeply with our true selves.
For this reason, the first step in awakening is, as Plato said,
Do thine own work, and know thyself.
Meditation and the Enneagram are a dream team that provides the way forward and the necessary tools to grow into our truest future selves.
As we enter into the right relationship with ourselves, we can flourish fully in our lives. We begin to thrive on the inside and create lives on the outside that feel vital, connected and meaningful.
Are you aware of your Enneagram of personality type? If you feel called, please leave a comment below. Our community would love to hear from you!
Hi, I’d like to start by saying this was a absolute pleasure to read. I’m in the midst of the awakening process, I am in the worst stage of all – the darkness stage and I am very interested in everything that has to do with the soul and who I am. I am completely into frequencies right now and am hoping to figure things out to where I understand it better. I’m very lost right now and I feel as if time is lost as well. Days go by in a flash and I feel like I’m in a never ending loop of letting life pass me by without really having any interests anymore. What are your thoughts about what I can do on my journey towards enlightenment? Or any other things you can tell me that could be helpful would be much appreciated.
Hi Susan,
I’m so grateful to hear that this article resonated with you. The darkness stage is a difficult place to be and the birthplace of your true self. You asked what you can do, and while every awakening journey is unique, there are common threads – making peace with our past, learning to live fully in the present and growing into who we’re meant to become. From what you’ve written, self-discovery is important to you right now, and there is no better map than the Enneagram to help with that. It enables you to enter the right relationship with your personality and soul. Love, Bev.
Do you have any examples of this in practice that you can share? What have you done to optimize your Enneagram in your meditation practices. This all sounds well and good, but without practical application, these strategies can end up failing alongside the many other strategies communicated out in the ethos.
Hi Jason,
Thanks for your great questions! I totally agree that it’s about integrating the wisdom gained from the Enneagram with practical meditation, mindfulness and other personalized practices. I for example, am an Enneagram type 2. Discovering that took me quite some time as it requires that we observe our core motivations, which are not always obvious to us. Do you know your Enneagram number? Once a person knows their Enneagram number there are many resources out there providing guidance for specific practices. With gratitude, Bev.