3 Empowering Tips If You Feel Something Is Missing In Your Life.
If you’ve been quietly carrying the feeling that something is missing, even when everything seems “fine” on the outside, you’re not alone. That ache beneath the surface isn’t a flaw. It’s a signal. And it might just be the beginning of something deeply meaningful.
As I shared in my blog, Feeling Like Something Is Missing? It Might Be Time to Come Home to Yourself, this quiet ache is often a deeper signal: not of failure, but of an invitation to reconnect with your true self.
In that post, I explored what might be driving this feeling—what I call soul hunger—and how it can arise when we’re living out of alignment with who we really are.
This article picks up where that one leaves off. If you’re ready to move from understanding why something feels off to exploring what to do next, these three tips will gently guide you home to yourself, and toward a life of greater vitality, connection, and contribution.
When you finally name the ache, the next question becomes: what now? These three tips are not fixes, they’re invitations. Gentle, grounded ways to begin coming home to yourself.
1. Begin the Journey Home to Yourself
This is one of the most challenging but rewarding steps you can take. It starts with turning your attention inward and committing to the profound work of knowing yourself on a deeper level. This means learning how to nurture your body, heart, mind, and soul—each an essential part of your inner ecosystem.
That’s where the 4 Keys to Inner Peace come in. This soul-centered, science-informed framework offers a practical and compassionate framework for coming home to yourself. It’s what I wished I had when I was feeling lost, confused and stuck in my life:
Self-Regulation
Learn to work with your nervous system, emotions, and thoughts to cultivate calm and clarity. This creates the inner safety and stability you need to reconnect with what truly matters.
Self-Love
Build a kind and nurturing relationship with yourself. This includes practicing self-compassion, setting boundaries, and releasing self-judgment so you can feel safe and worthy from within.
Self-Discovery
Explore who you are beneath the roles you play and the patterns you’ve inherited. Through reflection and tools like the Enneagram, this key helps you reconnect with your essence—both personality and soul.
Self-Expression
Begin to live from your inner truth. This might mean saying no, choosing a new path, or simply showing up more fully in your everyday life. It’s how soul hunger transforms into fulfillment.
Together, these four keys offer a holistic roadmap for healing, growth, and inner alignment.
Many people find that starting a meditation practice is a powerful first step for the journey home to yourself. These practices create a foundation of peace and balance within, helping you to feel more grounded and connected to your true self.
2. Use the Enneagram to Support Deeper Self-Discovery
As you begin to reconnect with yourself through the 4 Keys—especially Self-Discovery—you may feel called to understand who you are beneath the surface. That’s where the Enneagram becomes a powerful companion on your journey.
The Enneagram is a spiritually grounded personality framework that helps you:
- Understand the unconscious patterns that keep you stuck in old cycles
- Gain clarity on what truly motivates you beneath your roles or responsibilities
- Recognize your unique growth path—toward wholeness, alignment, and freedom
Rather than putting you in a box, the Enneagram reveals the box you’re already in—and shows you the way out. It deepens your self-awareness while pointing to the soulful qualities you’re here to embody as you grow into your most authentic self. You can learn more about the Enneagram here.
As your inner world comes into greater alignment, the feeling that “something is missing” often softens—replaced by purpose, clarity, and a deeper sense of coming home to yourself.
3. Harness the Power of the Universe to Guide Your Next Steps
When you’re in the process of transformation, it can feel overwhelming—like you need to have all the answers right away. The truth is, you don’t. You don’t need to see the whole path to take the next step. Instead, this is an invitation to trust the process and open yourself to deeper guidance—from the universe, life force, soul, or whatever resonates with you spiritually.
Here’s how to begin listening:
- Ask for signs: Through prayer, meditation, or quiet reflection, invite clarity by asking questions like, “What’s my next step?” or “Please show me a sign.”
- Pay attention: Notice synchronicities, intuitive nudges, or unexpected opportunities that might be guiding you forward.
- Take small steps: Trust that you only need to know the next right step—not the entire path ahead.
As someone who identifies as spiritual but not religious, I’ve found that even a simple gratitude or prayer practice can become a powerful anchor. For example:
“Please show me what my next step might be.”
“Please give me the strength to take the next step.”
“Please provide me with the guide or support I need.”
When you feel disconnected or unsure where to begin, reconnecting with your soul’s wisdom is essential. If you’d like gentle, grounded ways to do that, I created a companion article with 5 Tips to Connect With Your Soul When You’re Feeling Disconnected that offers simple yet powerful ways to tune in.
Transformation takes time and tenderness. There will be days of clarity and days of doubt. But when you stay in a relationship with your soul, something quiet begins to shift. The restlessness softens. The path begins to appear. And the question “What’s missing?” slowly transforms into “What’s possible?”
If you’re looking for more personalized support from someone who can light a path for you, I invite you to explore my 1-on-1 Mindfulness Life Coaching program. I’d love to connect with you!
Hi Bev, I feel like I’ve been at a point where I felt something was missing for a while now. Certain life circumstances have come up where I’m trying to figure this out but also in need of finding a job to support myself. I’m continually hurting my job hunt progress because I don’t know what it is I want that will help me feel like I’m not missing something. Is this work that can be done while also still chugging along with a 9 to 5?
Hi Sara,
Thanks so much for the great question about whether you can do the work and still chug along with your 9 to 5. It’s such a beautiful example of how our day to day life gives us the opportunity to grow personally and spiritually. In terms of the job hunt it sounds like you have an inner knowing that you need to support yourself. What I’ve found over the years is that I’ve been in a lot of jobs that felt like something was missing and yet without having the experience from the job I wouldn’t have learned what I do want. It’s like we have to discern both what we don’t want and also what we do want. We also can’t figure out what’s “missing” until we’re in the job and/or relationship. This then provides an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. So, yes absolutely you can do the work while you’re doing your 9 to 5 job. And in fact you likely need the 9 to 5 to both support yourself AND to show you were the work needs to be. Hope that makes sense. I’m sending you energy to pursue your job hunt without the need to have it all figured out. Love, Bev.
Hi. The fact that I found your site was a clear first sign for me. It made me very emotional with mixed emotions from sad for my soul abs happy and excited to reach to my soul. I thought it was a menopause thing, that I am feeling so unsure and questioning my point of being here. I am going to try some meditation and quiet time to be kinder to my soul. Thank you.
Hi Debra,
I’m so glad that this post found you! Feeling unsure and questioning the point of being here is a significant sign that you’re shifting and being invited to “awaken” to your deeper self. That’s great that you’re going to try an inner practice, like meditation and create space for quiet time so you can connect with what wants to arise. Thank you for sharing here! Love, Bev
Hi Bev,
Beautiful articles. Would you also share some next steps in how overcome / “solve” the problem with missing meaningful relationship. I’ve grown so much over the last year and thereby outgrown all my friendships – so much that I feel mostly misunderstood or “not seen” by them anymore. (Additionally many of them are not willing to grow their selves…)
I think that is by far the hardest thing to solve in the self awareness process because it involves others.
How do you / your clients cope with the “not to be seen / not to be understood by their (entire) friend circle symptoms. For me, I miss it so much that no one “just” understands and see me… thank you ??
Hi Sabrina,
Thank you so much for your very powerful and meaningful reflection. You have described what happens for many people who are growing and evolving and getting a sense that they are outgrowing their friendships. You are definitely not alone in feeling this as I hear from people around the world about how challenging this is. There is that period of time when we feel we’ve outgrown certain relationships and yet haven’t formed new ones where we DO feel seen, understood and like we have travel companions that nourish our souls.
It is often a lonely time and there is a sense of loss and grief that goes along with lovingly letting some people go in order to create space for friendships that have yet to emerge.
The way I have coped and helped my clients to cope is by practicing self-compassion and reminding myself that new friendships are on the horizon. I also let the “Universe” know that I am ready for new people to come into my life and then let go and trust that it will happen. I also want you to know that I see you, and understand how difficult this is. You are not alone and your courage to grow is an inspiration to many!!!! Much love, Bev