3 Empowering Tips If You Feel Something Is Missing In Your Life.
If you’ve been feeling like something is missing, you’re likely experiencing what I call disconnection stress—the hidden tension that builds when we’ve lost touch with what truly nourishes us. This stress isn’t always obvious, but it slowly drains our vitality and keeps us feeling restless. The good news? There are simple steps you can take today to start relieving this stress and reconnecting with yourself.
I’ve taken this journey myself and explored it deeply in both my personal life and work with clients. In my blog Why Do I Feel Like Something Is Missing—and What to Do About It, I shared my journey of grappling with this very feeling and the insights I’ve gained along the way. If you haven’t read it yet, it’s a helpful place to start for a deeper understanding of why this feeling arises.
The ache you’re feeling isn’t something to ignore; it’s an invitation to grow, reconnect, and evolve.
Each of the following tips is designed to counteract disconnection stress by bringing you back into alignment with yourself.
1. Develop a Healthy Relationship with Yourself
This is one of the most challenging but rewarding steps you can take. It starts with turning your attention inward and committing to the profound work of knowing yourself on a deeper level. This means:
- Dealing with stress from the inside out: Learning to calm your body and mind through tools like meditation and mindfulness.
- Practicing self-love and self-compassion: Releasing self-criticism and embracing your inherent worth.
- Building healthy boundaries: Honoring your own needs without guilt or resentment.
- Healing limiting beliefs: Letting go of conditioned patterns that no longer serve you.
Many people find that starting a meditation practice is a powerful first step. As one client shared, “I learned how to accept my emotions, communicate effectively about my needs, and say no without feeling guilty.” These practices create a foundation of peace and balance within, helping you to feel more grounded and connected to your true self.
If you’re already meditating but feel like you’ve plateaued, it may be time to look beyond meditation and focus on deeper self-discovery.
2. Envision and Evolve into Your Truest Future Self
Meditation and mindfulness help you lay a solid foundation, but they’re just the beginning. To fully address the sense that something is missing, you need to actively step into your true self—the most authentic, aligned version of who you are.
One tool that has helped me and many of my clients with this process is the Enneagram of personality. This spiritually grounded personality framework allows you to:
- Understand your unconscious patterns and how they hold you back.
- Gain clarity on what truly matters to you.
- Envision a growth path tailored to your unique personality.
The Enneagram has been described as an “awareness accelerator,” helping you move beyond surface-level self-understanding to deeper alignment and purpose. As you align your inner world with your outer actions, the feeling that something is missing often diminishes and is replaced by peace and fulfillment.
3. Harness the Power of the Universe to Guide Your Next Steps
When you’re in the process of transformation, it can feel overwhelming—like you need to have all the answers right away. The truth is, you don’t need to figure it all out at once. Instead, learn to trust the process and open yourself to guidance from the universe, life force, or whatever resonates with you spiritually.
Here’s how to start:
- Ask for signs: Through prayer, meditation, or quiet reflection, invite guidance by asking questions like, “What’s my next step?” or “Please show me a sign.”
- Pay attention: Notice synchronicities, intuitive nudges, or unexpected opportunities.
- Take small steps: Trust that you only need to know the next right step, not the whole path.
As someone who identifies as spiritual but not religious, I’ve found that a simple gratitude or prayer practice can be transformative. Examples include:
- “Please show me what my next step might be.”
- “Please give me the strength to take the next step.”
- “Please provide me with the guide or support I need.”
Transformation takes time and a commitment to the journey, but it’s worth it. By connecting deeply with yourself, aligning with your true self, and trusting the process, you’ll slowly replace the sense that something is missing with inner peace and clarity.
If you’re looking for more personalized support from someone who can light a path for you, I invite you to explore the Ignite Your Spark 1-on-1 coaching program.
Through a collaborative process, we’ll explore what’s holding you back, uncover your unique strengths, and create a clear path forward. You don’t have to walk this path alone—together, we can navigate the steps toward creating the vibrant and meaningful life you deserve. If this resonates with you, I’d love to hear your story and support your journey.
Hi Bev, I feel like I’ve been at a point where I felt something was missing for a while now. Certain life circumstances have come up where I’m trying to figure this out but also in need of finding a job to support myself. I’m continually hurting my job hunt progress because I don’t know what it is I want that will help me feel like I’m not missing something. Is this work that can be done while also still chugging along with a 9 to 5?
Hi Sara,
Thanks so much for the great question about whether you can do the work and still chug along with your 9 to 5. It’s such a beautiful example of how our day to day life gives us the opportunity to grow personally and spiritually. In terms of the job hunt it sounds like you have an inner knowing that you need to support yourself. What I’ve found over the years is that I’ve been in a lot of jobs that felt like something was missing and yet without having the experience from the job I wouldn’t have learned what I do want. It’s like we have to discern both what we don’t want and also what we do want. We also can’t figure out what’s “missing” until we’re in the job and/or relationship. This then provides an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. So, yes absolutely you can do the work while you’re doing your 9 to 5 job. And in fact you likely need the 9 to 5 to both support yourself AND to show you were the work needs to be. Hope that makes sense. I’m sending you energy to pursue your job hunt without the need to have it all figured out. Love, Bev.
Hi. The fact that I found your site was a clear first sign for me. It made me very emotional with mixed emotions from sad for my soul abs happy and excited to reach to my soul. I thought it was a menopause thing, that I am feeling so unsure and questioning my point of being here. I am going to try some meditation and quiet time to be kinder to my soul. Thank you.
Hi Debra,
I’m so glad that this post found you! Feeling unsure and questioning the point of being here is a significant sign that you’re shifting and being invited to “awaken” to your deeper self. That’s great that you’re going to try an inner practice, like meditation and create space for quiet time so you can connect with what wants to arise. Thank you for sharing here! Love, Bev
Hi Bev,
Beautiful articles. Would you also share some next steps in how overcome / “solve” the problem with missing meaningful relationship. I’ve grown so much over the last year and thereby outgrown all my friendships – so much that I feel mostly misunderstood or “not seen” by them anymore. (Additionally many of them are not willing to grow their selves…)
I think that is by far the hardest thing to solve in the self awareness process because it involves others.
How do you / your clients cope with the “not to be seen / not to be understood by their (entire) friend circle symptoms. For me, I miss it so much that no one “just” understands and see me… thank you ??
Hi Sabrina,
Thank you so much for your very powerful and meaningful reflection. You have described what happens for many people who are growing and evolving and getting a sense that they are outgrowing their friendships. You are definitely not alone in feeling this as I hear from people around the world about how challenging this is. There is that period of time when we feel we’ve outgrown certain relationships and yet haven’t formed new ones where we DO feel seen, understood and like we have travel companions that nourish our souls.
It is often a lonely time and there is a sense of loss and grief that goes along with lovingly letting some people go in order to create space for friendships that have yet to emerge.
The way I have coped and helped my clients to cope is by practicing self-compassion and reminding myself that new friendships are on the horizon. I also let the “Universe” know that I am ready for new people to come into my life and then let go and trust that it will happen. I also want you to know that I see you, and understand how difficult this is. You are not alone and your courage to grow is an inspiration to many!!!! Much love, Bev