What if that restless, heavy feeling in your chest or gut isn’t a flaw to fix — but your soul’s way of telling you something is missing?

What if the fatigue, loss of spark, or quiet ache that you’ve labeled “depression” is actually an invitation — a summons to remember who you are and come home to yourself?

I once worked with a young woman who came to learn meditation. Her counsellor had suggested it to help with the anxiety and depression she’d been feeling. She told me she wanted peace inside, and as we spoke, it became clear that her symptoms were just the surface of something deeper.

She felt disconnected from herself, like there were “two separate people” inside her: the one she truly was, and the one she felt she had to be to meet the expectations of others. Outwardly, she was doing what she was “supposed” to — working hard, pursuing goals, keeping people happy. But inside, she felt restless, empty, and confused.

That day, I realized her story wasn’t about depression in the way most people understand it. It was the early stirring of something else: a spiritual awakening — or what I call the ache of what I call soul hunger.

When “Depression” Is Really a Call From the Soul

Ancient wisdom teaches that we have both a conditioned self — shaped by upbringing, culture, and expectations — and a true self, the essence of who we are. When these two selves drift too far apart, it creates an inner tension that can feel like sadness, apathy, or exhaustion.

Modern psychology often labels this depression. But from a soul perspective, it can be a signal — the soul withdrawing its energy from a life that no longer fits, nudging us toward change.

Dr. Lisa Miller, founder of the Spirituality Mind Body Institute, calls this “developmental depression” — a spiritual invitation to live more fully and love more deeply. In her book The Awakened Brain, she writes that while antidepressants can improve mood, they don’t address the root cause when the cause is soul-level disconnection. That inner ache is not just emotional distress; it’s a summons to grow.

This soul-level disconnection requires a different approach than traditional therapy. While therapy excels at healing trauma and managing symptoms, it often can’t address the spiritual dimension of what you’re experiencing.

What I Call “Soul Hunger”

When I listen to my clients, I hear patterns that point to something deeper than clinical depression:

  • You can get out of bed, function, and “do life” — but feel flat or in limbo.
  • You have much to be grateful for, but still feel an emptiness you can’t explain.
  • You’ve lost your spark for life, love, or purpose.
  • You’re beginning to ask the big questions: Who am I? What matters to me? Why am I here?
  • You sense a need for change but can’t see the way forward.
  • You have a nagging feeling that something is missing.

This is what I call soul hunger — and it’s often the root of the feeling that something is missing.

Why It’s Often Misunderstood

Because our culture is quick to pathologize discomfort, we often rush to manage symptoms instead of listening to what they’re telling us. Even well-meaning professionals can miss the awakening element, treating it solely as a problem to eliminate rather than a process to move through.

The truth is, awakening is a normal part of our human evolution. It’s not comfortable — it can feel disorienting, lonely, even painful — but it’s a sign that you’re being called into a more authentic relationship with yourself.

A Different Path: From Disconnection to Inner Peace

So, what do you do when it feels like something is missing?

You don’t need to fix yourself. You need to find yourself and begin living a life that feels good to your soul.

That’s why I guide clients through my 4 Keys to Inner Peace — a science-and-soul framework for moving through the ache into alignment.

Here’s the path I guide clients through:

1. Self-Regulation – Calm your nervous system so you can hear the quiet voice within. Without inner steadiness, it’s hard to see clearly or act from truth.

2. Self-Love – Create an inner environment of safety and kindness. This fills the void in a way nothing external can.

3. Self-Discovery – Remember who you are beneath roles, conditioning, and expectations. This is where you begin to name what’s been missing.

4. Self-Expression – Live in alignment with your soul’s truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. This is how you bring meaning and vitality back into your life.

The Journey Home to Yourself

The young woman I worked with left our session with a new perspective. She no longer saw her experience as a personal flaw or a purely medical condition. She began to recognize it as her soul asking her to slow down, look inward, and reconnect.

Over time, she made small but powerful shifts — setting boundaries, listening to her intuition, and making choices that honored her needs. She began to feel lighter, clearer, and more alive.

If you’ve been feeling off, disconnected, or quietly unhappy despite having much to be grateful for, I want you to know: you’re not broken. That ache is not the end of the story.

It’s your soul calling you home.

If you’re ready to explore this call from your soul, my Ignite Your Spark transformational coaching program offers a guided path to reconnect with yourself and fill what’s been missing.